Why is it important to have your personal philosophy?

The importance of your personal philosophy (especially when you're a mom) lies in fact that you have limited time to waste! Keep on reading! #philosophy #momlife #secret

Life is made out of decisions. It is said that a decision may be easy or the right one. That might be the reason why whenever we feel confused and feel like one big mess we second guess the decisions we made in the past. But I’m digressing already. Let’s get back to the importance of your personal philosophy.

You already know, my life motto – it’s Just Redefine! For a bit longer explanation head to the other post I wrote, but the TL;DR version is: whatever bothers you, is controlled by your head. It’s all about your mindset. Everything can be redefined and by that made easier to digest.

Before I start freaking out because of some decision I need to make, I analyze it quickly (just in case I’ve already started my worrying spiral) and redefine it in a way that allows me to grasp the concept.

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What if I tell you that making up your mind can be easier? That stating your personal philosophy can make your life much, much easier? Even if you are the only person you’re stating it to 😉

What is this miracle personal philosophy statement?

Your life philosophy is an informal way of seeing the world and everything about it. Let’s break it down, shall we?

It’s all about you and your life. So it touches your family, your work environment, your friends but obviously, YOU are in the center, because you are the person who sees it all via philosophy prism.

It’s informal because to make it formal, you’d need to play Aristotle a bit and make an academic study. You are of course more than welcome to do so, but it’s not needed to develop your own ideology.

Put your core values in place.

By way of seeing the world, I actually mean the executive system that activates your core values. (Those are your core beliefs you live by). You see, in everyday life, you don’t always have time to filter every situation through all your core values funnel. Does it make sense? Your fundamental beliefs are your map and compass, they are the center of who you are, while the philosophy (based on your core values of course) is, in my opinion, a little short-cut simplifying it all to the understandable statement.

I can go on and on about my faith, importance of my family, about personal development and the meaning of fulfillment. Those are my core values, but I took it all together and brought it over to simple redefining process. It represents me not getting crazy about non-crucial stuff, me as a mother who get it all together (or at least trying to!), me trusting in God’s plan, me loving and living for my husband and my kids.

Related post: Why should you stop feeling guilty as a mom?

And what is beautiful about it, nobody has to get it. Key is, I see what is it about and how it all connects. I truly believe in it and that is why I’m sharing redefining with the world.

[ a word of explanation: Redefining is not a life philosophy per se, more of a life mission of mine, but works great as an even more simplified example for the needs of this post ]

Now, back to you!

Why is your philosophy so important?

I mentioned above that personal philosophy makes your life easier. But it’s not like you have to want an easier life, right? I’ve stated in the subject line of this post that it is important to have the philosophy though. And I am the woman of my word.

The meaning of creating the statement you live by is to have a clear vision of the journey we call life. Sorry, I couldn’t help myself. Sometimes I try to sound poetic and that’s the result. Stop laughing, we’re talking serious stuff here.

You have no time to waste, do you?

You were given a very limited time in this life. How will you live your life then? There is no point of throwing spaghetti at walls to check what sticks. You need to prepare your own life to live it fully and gracefully. That’s why your personal philosophy is so important – it gives you chance to create the life you want and deserve. Take time to think about all of it so you don’t waste your life on trying stuff you don’t actually care about at all.

It’s like preparing yourself for a vacation trip. You are checking out your destination, booking the hotel and so on. Thanks to that you’re not going to miss the biggest attraction just because it’s somewhere around the corner. You google that attractions, checking where they are and plan your trip accordingly. You don’t want to go to Athens, Greece and miss the Acropolis, do you?

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When you define why you’re doing what you’re doing, what is the point of it all, you are drawing the vision of yourself as the person you want to be. If that is not important I don’t know what is. The moment you put this life-changing statement together, everything else comes into places. Suddenly, you’re allowing the passion in your life to lead you. You are inspired by the things that are worthy of your attention.

I’m telling you, you will shine. Why? Being very dramatic I’d say it’s a matter of your ethics and morality as a human being. Chilling out a bit, I’m telling you it’s the matter of your adaptability, integrity, confidence and my personal favorite – motivation.

Can you already see how much defining your life philosophy can help you?

How can the life philosophy help you?

Imagine for a second you have your life aligned with the personal philosophy you stated. It helps you (even subconsciously) feel happy. I dare to say empowered.

Whenever you are in doubt, you know what to refer to. You have the clarity, the defined purpose. Just think about it, it’s hard to be overwhelmed and confused when you exactly know what do you want from life. You just need to compare the “little”, everyday issues to the big picture. Defined life statement to live by gives you strength and motivation from within. You cannot beat that.

I’ll give you a real-life example:

If your child broke your favorite coffee mug by accident, even though you are a bit sad, you most likely don’t make a big fuss about it. Why? It’s an easy choice when your child is your priority, not the mug.
If you’re building your life around raising your child to be well-behaved, you would, however, make a big fuss about him spitting bubble gum out on the street. Not because you care about the gum or clean streets, but because it’s all about raising your child the way you want to.

Both are silly situations, but your reactions will be so different!

But first, you need to decide how do you want to raise your children – that’s where life philosophy enters!

Set your priorities.

I’ll tell you more – the whole system of prioritizing literally everything is simplified when you have a clear vision of why you are living the way you are. This is not a rocket science. When you know your core values, your reasons are set and intentional, then you know what is more important than other stuff.

If you’re interested in clearing your mind a bit and redefine the way you thought about those big concepts of values and priorities, please download this workbook below. 

How can you develop one for yourself?

It seems obvious that ideology developing process is not a one size fits all. Although some general framework is supposed to be followed, I guess. You need to take action and then think about it and draw conclusions, right? If you read my blog, I assume you have at least twenty years of living behind you, that would be your “doing”, what is left now is “think about it” and  “learn”. There you go, I just created 3 step process on the spot!

Be thoughtful and productive. What is your passion? Your unique strength? What do you care about? Do you know your purpose? When all of this comes together, your life story writes itself.

Now focus on designing some form of a vision board. Even if not in the actual form of a poster, but just in your mind, how would you like to take your current story into the future? And just like that, you redefined your story into a manifesto. Your personal philosophy of life.

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You don’t need to be Socrates nor Plato to figure out your life. You “just” need to know what do you want here and now and preferably in 10 years. But remember that your life philosophy is not set in stone. It’s not like you cannot learn! Your life experience will add to it. You will adjust it. But having life philosophy is essential to be living an uncomplicated life. Not easy, but simple, right?

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6 comments

  1. Judy says:

    Good post. I think people struggle with things like this because they don’t know themselves very well. But if we just take some time to figure out what our values are like you mentioned, we would be better equipped to make decisions that align with those values.
    Thanks for sharing.
    Judy @sensibledove

    • Alicja says:

      Thank you for the nice comment, Judy! We are all so busy that we think we don’t have time to think about that stuff. It’s a pity, would be nice to talk to others about something else, something deeper than weather and everyday struggles 😉

  2. Dr. N says:

    Great post! You’re absolutely right regarding having a personal philosophy. We all have it but may not realize it. Taking an active role in choosing positive personal philosophies makes all the difference in bringinh good things to one’s life.

  3. Ruth says:

    I absolutely love how you have defined this! I’ve always had my core values, faith, family, and self-respect and respect for others. I never had a name for it though. It is just how I have lived.

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